How to Keep Your Relationship Alive
Every now and then, a relationship with your significant other can feel boring. If you’ve been together for a while, chances are you feel like you’ve lost the ‘spark’ that you once felt at the beginning of a relationship and sometimes it can feel like you won’t get that back. But you can, and here’s how!
10 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Alive
- Invest in figuring out each others love language.
The five love languages is a crucial part to your relationship. Figuring out each others love language (what makes you feel loved the most) is one of the best ways to show each other that you still care & love each other, regardless of whether that spark is still there or not! Read my earlier post, The Five Love Languages, to figure out which one is yours!
- Don’t put each other down.
If there’s anything that will make your partner not feel loved, it’s putting them down. This doesn’t help anyone in the long run. Try and keep the compliments to a high and don’t put each other down. If you have a problem with each other, sit down and talk it out rather than fighting instantly.
- Show gratitude & thank each other for the little things.
Show your partner that you’re appreciative of the little things. My partner does this thing where wherever we go, he would ALWAYS open the car door for me. At first I was all like ‘I can get the door myself’ but now, it’s something I really appreciate about him. He’s always been a true gentleman and he’s never stopped showing it, even after 10 months!
- Make time for each other & keep the romance alive!
It’s important to make time for each other and keep the romance alive. This helps your partner feel loved (yes ladies, it’s important for you to do this too!) Try and do a date night at least once a month (more if possible!)
- COMMUNICATION. It’s key!
Just like I said above, the best way to keep your relationship alive is by communicating. Communicate when something they’re doing is making you sad and when something they’re doing is making you happy. Your partner can’t read your mind, so you need to learn how to communicate in order to help a relationship stay alive.
- Apologise when you’re in the wrong. Don’t be stubborn!
One of my main problems in my relationship is that I’m stubborn. I hate admitting when I’m wrong and it’s something I’ve been trying hard to work on. It’s important to show your partner that your relationship is more important than your ego.
- Have realistic expectations when it comes to your partner.
Over time, people change. It’s inevitable. If you’re going to commit to your partner, you need to remember that at some stage your partner may change. Don’t try and force them to go back to the way they were. Change is growth. Try and embrace it!
- Understand that your partner will make mistakes. Forgive and let go.
Obviously this only stands if the mistake is something small like forgetting a date night etc. Don’t forgive and let go if they’ve cheated on you..
- Listen without interruption.
Nothing makes someone feel unappreciated like being interrupted when they’re talking. If your partner is talking to you, listen to them attentively.
- Don’t compare your relationship to others.
This is a quick way to make your partner feel inadequate. Comparing your relationship to others, for example, saying something along the lines of ‘you never buy me flowers but so and so buys their partner flowers’ is only going to make your partner feel unappreciated. Focus on what they actually do, not what they don’t. People have different ways of showing love to one another.
I hope you enjoyed the post & use these tips in your own relationship!
Until next time,